Complex

I really don’t want anything complicated out of life. I want to do work that is good, run a business that is honest and profitable, make a positive impact on people I meet, enjoy the small amount of time I have on this planet, and love my little family the best I know how.

All the uncomplicated things in life come with complicated things attached; and honestly, it can get quite frustrating. Thus far, I’ve found that nothing will get you further than working hard and keeping calm. Life’s hard, but it’s nothing to get wound up about. The annoying things pass aster when you pay them no mind.

When I have a rough day, I write things like this to remind myself… it’s not so bad.

29 Drafts

Currently, I have 29 draft posts sitting in my blog queue. All of which are just waiting for finishing touches and maybe a few edits. This would typically be a bit depressing to me; however, I’m just happy to have them out of my brain. I need every brain cell I can spare lately.

My beautiful son and my booming business both require a lot of time and care, which steals from my sleep and rest. Relaxation has been been restricted to brief moments that occur between tasks and meetings.

Every experience in life is growth — recognized or not. Everything changes us and shapes us; and it’s easy to see in experiences like having a child. Daily, I question how it is that I have even an ounce of sanity left. I haven’t been able to come up with an answer, so I continue to marvel.

Stay innocent, stay passionate.

Habit One

This chapter of 7 Habits could easily be its own book. It’s incorrectly titled as Proactive; however, this title may better fit with the overall book theme than the contents of the chapter.

This is easily one of the Habits that I agree with most and believe in deeply. I suspect my frustration with foolish people comes the core philosophy of this habit — you are responsible for your actions.

This first Habit is a gentle reminder that we as humans are not reactive animals driven be nothing other than instinct. We are responsible creatures; we choose our responses, goals and dreams. It is impossible for anything or anyone to control our emotions.

The concept that there is a gap for thought between any action and a reaction is simple, yet powerful. It is the realization that there is this gap is something that should be both taught at an early age. We should also instantly hold people accountable for that which they are responsible; versus handing out excuses that people can easily ride. I believe strongly that there is larger freedom in responsibility.

What could be better than being free to be happy, free of debt or simply content?

LinkedIn & Twitter

Below is a presentation that I gave at a Fullerton Chamber event. This was a introductory level presentation about LinkedIn and Twitter for businesses.

Parenthood Productivity

Yesterday, I was speaking with a friend about parenthood which lead to a conversation about productivity. We both agreed that nothing will make you more effective and productive as parenthood. The key to being the most productive person you can be has nearly nothing to do with how much time you have available and how well you use that time; it has everything to do with how much you must accomplish and the time that you don’t have.

Parenthood creates clearly defined tasks — instantly. There are a lot of grey-areas and unknowns around having and raising a child, but there are far more obvious tasks. Food, sleep, clean clothes, clean diapers are among of the first tasks that become habits; they are done with such frequency and requirement, they become as automatic as breathing. Defined tasks get done.

Like never before in my life, there is less time to get anything and everything done. Scarcity breeds value. When you think that you might possibly maybe have a moment of time, you start fantasizing about what you will do with it. You might do something simple like eat, sleep or run the restroom; or you might do something exciting like pay bills and respond to email. Whatever it might be, you do it like you have been given a precious gift.

The other critical factor in parenthood productivity is focus. It is very clear what is important and what is not. Anything that is not important never hits the to-do list. Your list is no longer burdened with tasks that have middle-of-the-road importance. You don’t have to pick what is important; this choice is made for you.

How can a productivity system ever do this for you? I don’t know. Am I suggesting that you have a kid? Not at all.

I’m the kind of person that was always seeking ways to improve my life. The tables have been turned; and now, my life is constantly seeking ways to improve me.

Spending Enough

Are you spending enough on your computer? Not everyone, but a growing and large group of people are spending a lot of time on a computer daily. These people are not just playing around and wasting time playing Farmville. These people are making their income using a computer. Among my circle of friends, it is more common than not that they are personally paying for the computer that earns their paycheck.

Your typical laptop will cost $2,000-ish — and in most cases far less. I can’t imagine that anyone who a) uses a computer all day b) for work c) that they pay for d) makes less than $2,000 per year e) using that computer. I heavily suspect this is true. I would venture to guess that most people make at least five times that much in return; and most likely, they make a considerably larger return.

Why is it that people willingly pay $6,000 per year for a car that doesn’t earn a penny? Yes, it might get you to work, but it doesn’t earn your paycheck. They same people cringe and wince when spending a third of the amount of money on a device that pays the bills daily.

I am often found singing the praises of dual monitors and large monitor in regards to productivity boosts for the cost. If you buy on the cheap, you can pick up a second monitor for $300-ish. Would you pay a one-time fee of $300 to be 5-10% more productive? Why wouldn’t you?

I feel the same way about new and upgraded hardware/software. If a new laptop would give you a 10% boost in your daily production, what is the value of that boost? My guess is that it wouldn’t be hard to calculate. In a 10-hour work-day, you would save an hour… 50+ hours in a year saved. What is the value of a week in your life?

Don’t overspend and ruin any meaningful ROI, but spend what it takes to get a measurable improvement. From my observation, people tend to spend too much on a laptop upfront, hold onto it too long, and not buy purposeful upgrades.

My suggestion is to buy good enough versus top-of-the-line laptop; and compliment your purchase additional RAM, an SSD or a large monitor. When I purchased an SSD for my laptop, booting Photoshop dropped from 45 seconds to 7 seconds. That is a measurable difference with an RIO that can easily be calculated.

I don’t hold onto my laptops for very long. I typically buy a new one every 18-24 months with a hardware upgrade in the middle. Computers get faster and cheaper every year; use this fact in your planning.

In short, spend enough.

Mount Blogmore

My hope and dream of returning as a daily blogger have been shattered by the insanely busy life that I live. I enjoy blogging daily as both a way to record my life and a way to destress/vent. I am going to attempt to start blogging once a week, and progress from there. I have always wanted to write longer, more polished posts… so this may be the opportunity to do just that.

My biggest disruption to blogging is most likely the lack of sleep that I am currently experiencing. When I have 10-15 minutes of available time, I rarely have the mental prowess to stitch a few thoughts together for a post. Twitter and the iPhone (games) only make this issue worse by providing a low brainpower outlet.

When I may have time to blog, I am typically consumed by work related thoughts that I simply cannot write about. I’ve heard this as an excuse from my people before; and this is the first time that this issue has struck me. I again assume that I just don’t have the capacity to shift out of work mode as easily as in the past.

I thought I would blog a lot more about my child after he was born, but it turns out that I would rather enjoy him than write about him. I still find this a bit shocking. The most important thing in my life and I never have the words to describe any of it. Maybe I am afraid of getting tears on my keyboard.

Regardless… I like blogging… and I want to do it more.

Back Tagging

At some point, I need to invest the time to go back through my 3,000+ posts and apply tags and categories. It will be no small effort, but I think it will be worth it in the long run. While I’m at it, it might not be a bad idea to review for spelling and grammar issues. Ten years of posts could also contain a few posts that just need to be deleted.

Shopping Online

I’m no stranger to shopping online, but now I’m trying to take it to the next level. Being home with the baby more means that I’m home more to accept packages. Not being home and the foolishness of most delivery services are the primary reasons that I have tried ordering online more in the past. My new experiment will be to order all non-perishable items online and avoid trips to Target (and other common shopping locations). Why do it? Time and effort. I genuinely have less time now and the effort required to go shopping has greatly increased.

Doctor Visits

I grossly underestimated the volume of doctor visits required post-birth. If I’m not mistaken, we’ve had a minimum of two appointments per week — which is double the number we had pre-birth. Three things bother me about doctor appointments: hours of operation, masses of paperwork, and long waits.

Doctors, whether they like it or not, are a service business. Their hours of availability are pathetic. Since people can become ill around the clock, it makes little sense that most offices are only open during normal work hours. Just imagine if restaurants ran such hours.

If anyone should take advantage of data sharing, it should be the medical profession. It is annoying how many time I have to write the same information at the same office. I’d be happy to have something like a QR code that could be scanned.

Why is there always a wait? I show up early or late and still a wait. The waiting room can be empty and still a wait. It’s like they feel obligated to make use of the waiting room. Few things are as painful as an extra hour in a waiting room.

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